The Magic of Tea Breaks

The most important thing I look forward to every single working day… The Tea Break.

It’s just so very rejuvenating, nothing else can brighten up day like these Tea Breaks at 10:30 am and 03:30 pm.  Timings we have fixed for these breaks.

Now that all my besties have left for various reasons…Tea Break with my new Bestie Pooja has become an addiction.  Its more about chit chatting, the trivia of the day than actually having tea.  

I am gonna miss this soon, she too is going away.  I have come to believe having tea with me is a good omen, new doors open for my friends and before I realize they leave… I am happy for them for they new experiences. I do feel lonely … very lonely in fact.

When work get boring we look forward to other reasons to come to work daily usually it’s a work friend who shares your view points, with whom you can converse, with whom you are confident that all that you speak will not become gossip.

After all my friends left one by one… I am glad Pooja came along. I am thankful for all these months we spent time together… Laughing, cribbing, joking, name calling and all those things.   

Wonderful memories to keep me going….

23^rd August 2017

With Love Life Blossoms…

Love is Healing…
Love is contentment…
Love is caring…
Love is empathy…
Love is forgiving..
Love is respect…
Love is a breath of fresh air…
Love is what keeps us going when the going gets rough…
Love touches us once and lasts a lifetime…
Love is life…

Love means so much and yet the depth of it is hardly known. Love keeps us going when we almost give up. It uplifts us and tells us hold on… tomorrow will be better.

Love is the most contradictory emotion it makes us strong as well as weak and helpless.

What love means to me… it means life, I cannot imagine living without love, loving myself, Love of the one I love, love of my children, love of my parents, my sibling, my friends and all those who have touched my life and sculpted me into what I am today… its love that changed me, made me a balanced person.. I am sure without love in my life I would have been pretty annoying and pathetic…

It’s sad to see that people mix love with obsession, hurt and annoy each other and yet claim to be in love. I have seen people being depressed and morose because of being hurt by their loved ones. True love never causes pain, never hurts and never lets you down and definitely is not the cause for tears…it is always supporting, forgiving and encouraging.

Love for me is freedom… living life my way… love is encouraging…love is supportive…love makes me courageous… Love makes me smile, while I feel glum... Love is what makes me dream…...love is what makes me hopeful… love makes me soar high…love makes all things possible…

I feel so blessed to have found such love which is so encouraging…so blissful…so content…I Love being in Love with the one I Love….

The moment you have in your heart this extraordinary thing called love and feel the depth, the delight, the ecstasy of it, you will discover that for you the world is transformed.... Jiddu Krishnamurti

A Friend Comes Along...

I walked into the new office very skeptical of what was in store for me. The location was pretty depressing. I travelled so far to work so long; I was waiting for an opportunity close to home, to spend time with my daughter and parents. This one came up, I told myself, 'six months max out here or else I will choke.' The place was depressing, people were morose, boss’s were pathetic........ nothing excited me enough to stay back.

A chirpy, petite girl in my department was in charge of getting me introduced to the working of this place. There was something different about her; she stood out of the crowd. She was friendly, smiling, helpful, had a whacky sense of humor and was very popular. She had been around for a long time and I would always wonder what kept her bound to this lousy place. She was like a breath of fresh air in this stinky place.

As time passed, we hit it off like a house on fire. The age gap between us didn’t mean a thing, we were like teens together laughing, talking, cracking silly jokes, sharing our grief, motivating each other...... Though the environment was the same, my attitude changed, I actually started looking forward to coming to office; office was fun, it was a day I would meet my friend, a day we would chat endlessly and laugh like two mad hatters, the burden of work suddenly did not matter, it became one of the many things we did in the course of the day. It wasn’t the highlight of the day anymore.

Two and a half years just flew by and one day my friend decided she needs to move on and explore what lies beyond this office as she felt she had been a frog in the well for too long. The time had come to get out and explore new territories.

It hurts now to think of going to a place where you can’t relate to anyone, I guess it’s once in a while someone comes along who compliments your thought processes - it does not happen often…

I will miss her awfully I know, but its practical to move on and I am sure wherever my friend goes she will carry sunshine and laughter with her like a nice bright sunny day.

I am so glad I met her. She rubbed in sunshine and laughter into me, which will go on even after she is gone…


I like this quote:

We are each of us angels with only one wing, and we can fly only by embracing each other."
-Lucian de Crescenzo

In Love with Myself

Someone rightly said Happiness is a state of mind.

It took so many experiences and many years to understand the depth of this statement. That’s when I realized that loving myself is the only emotion that can make me happy and the best thing I can give myself. When I love myself, I don’t let anyone hurt me. I choose people who make me happy and don’t attract the cry baby types. I can think clearly even if situations around me are pathetic. I do not let anyone spoil my day, as I wouldn't bother about what they say. All because I choose to love myself.

Now isn’t that wonderful… we are so simple to deal with yet we make ourselves so complicated and mess our existence.

Yes to love your ownself you require discipline and a deep desire to be positive, no matter what life dishes out at you. When I say discipline I mean a conscious effort in every little thing that's done. To eat right and not stuff yourself, as though there is going to be a famine soon. Being with people who make you feel good and who definitely have a great sense of humour. Relaxing the mind by spending some time with your own self, helps immensely, it helps to resolve mental clutter and see things in the right perspective.

The benefits of loving yourself are endless. It’s a wonderful feeling which can only be experienced. Everything looks beautiful, situations get simplified, you have a bounce in your walk, a song in your mind and a smile on your lips…it's a high of a different kind...you feel as light as a butterfly soaring up the sky...

Have you ever done what your soul desires…
Have you stopped to hear what your body is telling you…
Have you ever hugged yourself tightly…
Have you looked into the mirror and told yourself, what an amazing masterpiece you are…
Have you felt your heart flutter at the thought of a loved one…
Have you ever realised how gifted you are…
Have you ever stopped to think there is no one like you except you, yourself…and smiled..
Stop and think for a moment…Have you loved yourself today…

Being Mom Doing That…

Thirteen years of being a Mother…. Amazing I have done it…Successfully till now (that’s what I think). Never in my wildest dreams had I ever thought that I would be a Mom. Infact, when I became a Mom I was shocked, I did not know why people around me were thrilled and I was so confused, I guess it was my age 22… too young. I still wonder when I watch movies and I see expectant mothers beam with pride, I just can’t relate to that emotion even now… I guess its different with different Moms.

I was so immature then, but I guess that immaturity made my daughter feel comfortable as we both perceived the world in a similar manner. We could shout, scream, cry, laugh without thinking twice. I could never spank her, when she was wrong, as I just couldn’t do it. I would reason with her and my folks thought I was crazy, they still tell me she would have been different if I was more like a Mom (Rule with the rod and breath fire like a dragon) to her than like someone her age. Somehow, that did not appeal to me then nor does it now. Even today if I shout at her and she cries I cry along, the whole purpose is defeated. I don’t know how it just happens.

But I guess with all that my kiddo (Rithika, I call her Titu – she dislikes that) has still turned out to be a fine little girl, good looking, intelligent, creative and a whacky sense of humor (she had no hope having a mom like me) on the whole a wonderful human being, though she has her own mood swings which I attribute to raging hormones (normal at her age) her anger which is quite annoying, she can scream and shatter glass, she can argue till the cows come home and when she is affectionate she can smother and kill with love. I like her the way she is minus her anger everything is fine.

Her being in my life brought about a lot love, stability, tolerance and a purpose. Stability because I am such a freedom freak, I hate control of any kind; emotional control is the worst of them all. When Titu was born I still had a Teen’s mindset, she taught me to think beyond myself, she taught me how important it is for someone you love to spend time with them and nothing can make up for that time. Now I come running back home from work just to be with her and we talk endlessly, she tells me what happened at School (by the way Schools are more happening than what they were then) and I tell her about Office (gossips as usual) and we talk our way into the night, till my Mom shouts out that we need sleep as we have an early morning the next day.

It’s a nice feeling of seeing your kid go through different phases of life, at times you feel like pulling your hair apart, you learn to laugh without any reason, you can dance without music, sometimes you wish you could use a mind probe to check what’s happening in their little brain, but on the whole it’s a wonderful experience. Kids manage to make you go through every emotion in the world (whether you are ready for it or not) that a human being could possibly experience in one lifetime. At times they also manage to bring out the best and not to forget the worst in you…. They are talented enough to make you experience enlightenment…. …

I feel I am gradually levitating to that level…

Some of my favorite quotes…

Some mothers are kissing mothers and some are scolding mothers, but it is love just the same, and most mothers kiss and scold together. ~Pearl S. Buck

A daughter is a day brightener and a heart warmer. ~Author Unknown

Daughters are like flowers, they fill the world with beauty, and sometimes attract pests. ~Author Unknown